Pushing Him Away?
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Written by: Amy
Maybe you've been through several failed
relationships in the past and you're starting to wonder if you are unintentionally pushing him away. There are
certain actions or words that can be attributed to you in which men feel uncomfortable, thereby causing them
to scamper away. It is therefore important to know the things done that can be pushing him
Are you the kind of girl
that’s always fighting with friends? Are you always gossiping? Do you make situations more troublesome than they
should be? In his mind you create a lot of drama, and this can be pushing him away. You handle situations
poorly, and cause them to be a lot more troublesome than what they should be. Men don’t like this. They like
things simple in life, and therefore run for the hills.
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How you treat
How people treat others is
possibly the greatest mark on a person’s character. What men look for in a wife is someone who is caring and
loving. Regardless of how you treat him, if you’re constantly bad mouthing your friends or mistreating other
people in ways, you’re not going to come off as loving. This can unknowingly pull his opinion of you down. He
may be thinking that down the road when you’ve been together for a while you’ll begin to treat him like that.
You’re also not going to resemble a wife he would want. This could be pushing him away when instead you could be
reeling him in.
Men value respect more than
love. Even if you’re giving him a ton of love in the relationship without respect, it can cause a distance
between the two of you and can be pushing him away. Watch out for things like swearing at him and poorly chosen
words during arguments. Mostly, your attitude or tone can communicate a lack of respect
as well as your opinion of
him shared with others.
He instinctively has the
mentality of a provider. One of his greatest fears is in not being able to provide for his family. If your
spending habits are high, it’s going to increase that fear because his task of providing is going to be seen as
harder. Men don’t like this kind of pressure, and you could be pushing him away.
Counter intuitively in order
to get closer to him, sometimes you need to give him some space. If you’re always; with him, phoning him when
he’s out with the guys, checking his phone, not giving him space but clinging to him, you could actually be
pushing him away. Men will
subconsciously pull away in order to get the space they need. Find out
why he pulls
Coming off as
Through your speech, or
actions, coming off as desperate makes men instinctively run. Perhaps they view you as the kind that won’t give
them space if they got closer. It could be that they see you as a person with too much baggage and you'll never
be normal. Or maybe your problems seem overwhelming to them. The point is that coming off as desperate can be
pushing him away.
The kind of questions you ask
could send wrong signals to him. It's not good to be asking to know how much money he makes or if he has a car
since that could give the impression that you are the materialistic type. Some men don't like women that will
end up becoming liabilities for them. Instead, they want independent and self-sufficient women, and the
materialistic type can be pushing them away.
One way by which you can
scare men away is to subject your new boyfriend to the tale of all that happened between you and your ex while
you were both still together. Your new guy really isn't interested in all the stories of what he did right and
what he failed to do right, as well as all the nice times that you both had together. It just feels out of place
for a man when you force him to hear all that. You could scare men away in such a case because they feel that
you might tell someone about him in the future should things go wrong. Or that he still has some competition in
your mind. If you must talk about your ex, let him be the one to ask and don't go into too extensive
Watch out for wrong
statements like; I have trouble trusting men because my ex cheated on me, or I’m not sure I want to get
married. These words communicate a lack of intimacy and coldness he’s not looking
Moving too far too
Something that can be pushing
him away is giving the impression that you are eagerly looking for lifetime commitment or marriage in your
relationship too soon. Once you start talking about settling down and having kids, a man that isn't ready for
such things yet will waste no time in finding the exit door. You should instead take it easy with your man when
it comes to long-term commitment provided you are really sure that he loves you and is serious about you two
Expectations are too
Some women feel that it is
the duty of their boyfriend to make them happy always. What they, however, failed to realize is that such belief
could be pushing him away. You need to realize that your man has other things and businesses that he must attend
to rather than just focusing on what to do to make you happy. Giving him the impression that you expect him to
be superman is too stressful. Even if he is ready to do that, it is not an easy thing to do since it is not
always that easy to make a person happy. It is the responsibility of each partner to see to his or her own
happiness. Gone are those days when men are expected to be the one providing all the needs of their partners;
these days, responsibilities have to be taken care of together.
Trying to change
Pressuring him to be
something he’s not? Men want to be accepted for who they are. When you try to change him, he feels you don’t
love him the way he is. He also feels like you’re not in love with him, but that you’re in love with another
man. The one he could be but isn't. Someone that you have
in your mind that you’re trying to make him become. It's the not accepting him for who he is that can be pushing
him away. The main point is acceptance and reassurance of who he is.
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